Single Girls Guide to First Date – Scenario 2 ( Indian Arranged Marriage Setup , Meeting the Guy & his parents)

Although most parents will allow the prospective bride and groom to meet alone, you may end up with a first meeting with the guy and his entire clan.

What to wear?

Dress

A pretty kurta in a complexion enhancing colour teamed with tights or an elegant sari (check with your parents) are good options.

Jewellery

A simple pendant and earring will make you look elegant and pretty.

Makeup

Fresh natural makeup / nude look will give you confidence, while making sure that prospective in-laws do not feel you are trying to hide behind paint. You can opt for light pink or French manicure.

How to greet?

Generically a standard Namaste with folded hands and a smile will save you from the questioning looks from elders that may come with a “Hi” or getting labelled as “too traditional” if you opt for touching the feet.

Things to do / not to do

Sitting: Your parents / prospective in-laws may ask you to sit near them / their son. Do so gracefully. No rolling the eyes, looking shocked or uncomfortable.

Talking: Once you’ve exchanged the pleasantries, follow their cues and let them start the talking. Avoid being overfriendly or too restrained. Tone yourself down. Be polite. Skip embarrassing incidents and sticky subjects. If you think you are not comfortable with the line of questions being asked, change the track of the conversation.

With the guy: Don’t try to interview the guy in front of his parents. They may think that you will intimidate him.

Don’t be a fake: Be your own self. Don’t portray a wrong image; this can lead to a future disaster.  If you don’t know how to cook, say you’ve never had a chance or need to cook till now and who can predict what the future may bring.

 

Think of this whole situation as an interview with a prospective employer. You need to be the best version of yourself and make the interviewer want to hire you.

 

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Single Girls Guide to First Date – Scenario 1 ( Indian Arranged Marriage Setup , Meeting the Guy Alone)

A first date can be a nerve wrecking experience specially in cases of arranged marriage scenarios where it can be a blind date on top of  being a first date. The questions on top of every girls mind is a > where to meet ( in-case the guy asks preference ) and  b > what to wear.

Where to Meet ( Options )

1> Coffee shop of a Good Hotel : They will not be as crowded as the local  CCD’s / Barista’s / Mochas, while providing the safety of meeting in  public place . Coffee shops are always a good option as you can extend / limit the time of meeting on the basis of how the date progresses.

2>  Brunch Date : Will allow you to linger and chat over food in a relaxed atmosphere , which is more intimate than coffee shop date. Try this  if you have liked the guy during your previous on – phone talks

3> Mall – Avoid on weekends and rush hours. Large malls like Inorbit & Highstreet Phoenix in Mumbai , Amanora in Pune , Ambience Mall in Delhi etc provide food as well as activity options.

Just ensure that first date is not in secluded place ( obvious for security reasons ) , someone knows where you are going , is not a very expensive place.

What to Wear

1 > Indian / Western – Wear what you normally wear. If you normally wear only Jeans , wear a pair with dressy feminine top , if you are comfortable in Indian wear , a nice Kurta with leggings / tights / salwar is appropriate. If you normally wear dresses , wear it – just ensure that length is not too short , and you are not showing too much skin at top.

2> Dress Nice not Sexy – Its the first date and you do not want to give the wrong impression. Do not show too much skin.

3> Wear a girly color that flatters you : For fair girls with blue undertones – Pink is great option , while if you are wheatish , peach  / coral will make you glow. If you want to dress up slim in black , try accessorizing it with Red.

4 > Natural Glow – Makeup should be natural. Hide your imperfections , put on some peach blush , a nice lipgloss , and clear mascara . Guys do not like heavily madeup girls.