If you’re a single girl like me, you may be dreading the coming weekend (Valentine’s Day). Instead of loathing the day and going into hiding, have an awesome weekend with the most special person in your life – you.
Here’s a single girl’s guide to have an awesome valentine’s day.
Start the day early by going to gym: yeah exercising will release the happy chemicals in your brain, what can be a better way to start the day.(looking fit will help attract attention of more guys ;))
Book yourself a day spa: have a fancy facial, enjoy the manicure & pedicure, the massage, body polish & wrap will make you float on cloud 9. Ahhh! the pretty you.
After having some junk food for lunch, its ok to indulge once in a while, go shopping: buy yourself all the gifts you wish– be it the chocolate or flowers, a new dress or diamond earrings. Go on splurge.
As singles we face frustration and extreme pressure from society and people closest to us . Sometimes an unbearable loneliness fills our heart and makes us feel depressed. I too have been through such a phase and a recent comment from a reader made me realise that its time for me to post about coaching. I myself attended relationship coaching sessions to help me overcome my fears and to deal with this pressure ( Guys coaching is not counselling so if you have psychological issues – I suggest you go to a trained psychologist )
Coaching is for people who :
keep picking the wrong person/type ( and there’s a pattern there which you will recognize like I did , and how to break it
feel lonely and don’t know how to deal with it , because they just don’t find the right person
are tired of searching for the right person and just want to compromise and get into a relationship for the sake of it
have commitment / trust issues
don’t know what they want from relationship
are not able to experience an equal relationship ( givers / takers )
who keep wanting more
NEED SOMEONE TO OPENLY TALK WITH ABOUT THEIR FEARS AND HOPES FOR A RELATION WITHOUT BEING JUDGED.
It helped me see myself in a different light and work on my self – image , how do I present myself to people and to know what I really want from a relationship. Try it out.
We the single girls of above a certain age face a very real pressure, whether spoken or not, to be married. Sometimes this societal pressure, fact that you are alone and the media’s reflection of a happy relationship gets to us. Making us feel LONELY.
Loneliness is not being alone. One can be lonely even in midst of others; loneliness is the feeling of emptiness and sadness, the feeling of abandonment, the feeling of having no one and the fear of being left out.
Last night I felt that deep loneliness and decided to write about managing it. Here are some tips that have worked for me and may work for you.
Call someone you love: It could be your mother, grandmother or your best friend. It could be your little niece who will make you smile with her childish chatter. Just talking with someone you love will give you that momentary escape you badly need at that moment.
Cry: There’s something healing about shedding the tears. Let the flow and take away your pain as they go.
Drink: When I say drink I don’t mean a hard drink as it can cause you to feel more depressed but a glass of wine or a nice cup of tea or hot chocolate will help you to feel calmer.
Sleep: There nothing that can beat a good night’s sleep to refresh you and to give you the mental strength to fight the feeling of loneliness , trust me and try it.
Exercise. If you are lonely, take up a new sport or exercise. An hour of running or swimming or dancing will release the endorphins that will replace the sadness with joy.
Take up a hobby: For me blogging has been the answer, it helps me to express myself anonymously. Do something you will enjoy and it may help you connect with new people and who knows one of them may be your soul mate?
Work on yourself: Read, exercise, go for a massage or visit the parlour. The fact that you are working on yourself will boost your confidence and will make you look and feel more attractive.