Single Girl’s Valentines Day Plan

If you’re a single girl like me, you may be dreading the coming weekend (Valentine’s Day). Instead of loathing the day and going into hiding, have an awesome weekend with the most special person in your life – you.

Here’s a single girl’s guide to have an awesome valentine’s day.

  1. Start the day early by going to gym: yeah exercising will release the happy chemicals in your brain, what can be a better way to start the day.(looking fit will help attract attention of more guys ;))
  2. Enjoy the special love smoothie
  3. Book yourself a day spa: have a fancy facial, enjoy the manicure & pedicure, the massage, body polish & wrap will make you float on cloud 9. Ahhh! the pretty you.
  4. After having some junk food for lunch, its ok to indulge once in a while, go shopping: buy yourself all the gifts you wish– be it the chocolate or flowers, a new dress or diamond earrings. Go on splurge.
  5.  Wine & Dine:  Decorate your dinner table and relish your 3 course meal of spicy, cheesy jacket potatoes, mushroom risotto & choco-orange cake with a glass or two of wine.
  6. End the day by reading your favourite book or movie ( avoid romance they will make you feel lonely , instead go for action or comedy)
  7. Bed-time ritual: light some candles or a dim lamp, massage yourself with a fragrant lotion, say thanks for all the good things in your life and hit the bed on a positive note.

Singles Girls FAQ Series (Q1)- When will I get married ?

Well the answer is you will get married when you are mentally and emotionally prepared for it. Arrange marriage might make it seem that marriages are practical arrangements involving age, background, financial & educational status and you can marry anyone as long as those parameters match but in actual any marriage is more than that. Unless you understand why you actually want to get married and are open to make that kind of commitment, you will not be married.

Try to understand your own needs from a partners , your reasons for wanting to get married , your fears in regards with relationships. Understand the past patterns of breakup of your relations and be realistic. These will help you to set your direction.

Meanwhile instead of just blaming your luck and moping around develop your skills & your personality. Be in love with yourself . Forgive yourself and those who have hurt you. Laugh & enjoy and live this MOMENT

Single Girl’s Guide to Living Alone

Choosing an Apartment
1> Security: Make sure that the area is safe (check with your new colleagues), apartment block is secure, has guards on duty (who actually o the job), check with current residents if they feel safe (in general you will too), check if approach road is well lit and has people moving around at the time you will be going out and coming back from office. A safe apartment may cost more, but is an essential not to be compromised on.

2> Budget : Decide on a budget and be clear about money you can afford to and want to spend on rent, based on these you’ll need to find out what types of apartments are available in your price range. You may even want to share your place, so you can afford a bigger / safer apartment, or one that is in a more desirable neighborhood.

 ( check out my single girl’s guide to aprtment hunting for more information )

Household Chores

1> Food : Living alone, food is going to be a major problem even if you know cooking – simple reason you won’t feel like cooking for yourself, after a long tiring day in office. If possible invest in a basic microwave & freezer (you can cook your meals on weekends & freeze the stuff), you can also get dabbas or join a mess. If no such option exists ask your neighbor (aunty) if she can give you dinner on payment basis.

2> Maid : Hire a maid , your house will be clean & clutter free -believe me despite your best promises , you won’t be cleaning your house  as often as you would like & washing dishes & clothes will make you feel burdened and lonely.

3> Shopping: Find the nearest discount shopping store (a D-Mart may come out to be cheaper than Big Bazaar for you) do all your shopping in bulk – this will get you better discounts. For small stuff your neighborhood kirana shop is a good bet.

Beating the Loneliness

 

Work hard at making new friends, with your new colleagues. Gym can be a great place to start new friendships & to keep you looking great. Join a hobby club or take up some extra classes (you will have fun doing something you wanted to learn & make friends).