Single Girl’s Valentines Day Plan

If you’re a single girl like me, you may be dreading the coming weekend (Valentine’s Day). Instead of loathing the day and going into hiding, have an awesome weekend with the most special person in your life – you.

Here’s a single girl’s guide to have an awesome valentine’s day.

  1. Start the day early by going to gym: yeah exercising will release the happy chemicals in your brain, what can be a better way to start the day.(looking fit will help attract attention of more guys ;))
  2. Enjoy the special love smoothie
  3. Book yourself a day spa: have a fancy facial, enjoy the manicure & pedicure, the massage, body polish & wrap will make you float on cloud 9. Ahhh! the pretty you.
  4. After having some junk food for lunch, its ok to indulge once in a while, go shopping: buy yourself all the gifts you wish– be it the chocolate or flowers, a new dress or diamond earrings. Go on splurge.
  5.  Wine & Dine:  Decorate your dinner table and relish your 3 course meal of spicy, cheesy jacket potatoes, mushroom risotto & choco-orange cake with a glass or two of wine.
  6. End the day by reading your favourite book or movie ( avoid romance they will make you feel lonely , instead go for action or comedy)
  7. Bed-time ritual: light some candles or a dim lamp, massage yourself with a fragrant lotion, say thanks for all the good things in your life and hit the bed on a positive note.

Microwave Mushroom Risotto – Awesome Dinner for One

2 tbsps. butter

3-4 cloves finely chopped garlic (you may reduce / add garlic based on your preference)

½ chopped onion

¼ cup uncooked Arborio rice/ sticky rice

1/2 cup water or vegetable stock

20 ml white wine

2 tbsps. grated cheese

¼ cup chopped mushrooms

Salt & pepper to taste

Method

In a microwave safe glass dish combine butter, garlic and onion. Place dish in microwave and cook on high for 3 minutes.

Add mushrooms, and season with salt and pepper. Microwave until mushrooms have become tender, about 5 minutes.

Put rice & water / broth into a different microwave safe bowl, cover tightly & heat on high for 10-12 minutes.

Stir in the wine & cook on high for about 2 minutes , add mushrooms mixture and heat for 2 more minutes.

Stir in the cheese and enjoy your yummy risotto

Have a cheesy, spicy day: Valentines Jacket Potato

1 large potato

5 tbsps. cup grated cheddar/ processed cheese / vegan cheese

2 tbsp. chopped Jalapeno pepper (if you don’t like spicy replace with green pepper/ Shimla mirch)

1 tbsp. tomato puree

1 tbsp. chopped green onion / leeks

½ tbsp. chilli flakes

Method

Wash jacket potato and pierce with fork all over.

Place in microwave on high for about 8 minutes until done (test with knife / fork)

Cut the potato in half, scoop out the fluffy middle.  Mix the scooped out potato with chopped jalapeno, leeks, chilli flakes, tomato puree & 3 tbsps. of cheese.

Stuff the potato halves with above mix & top with remaining cheese (1 tbsp. each)

Put the filled ‘jackets’ on a microwave-safe plate and heat for one minute, or until the cheese has melted.

Enjoy “Love” on a platter.

Better than love : Choco-orange Mug Cake

All-purpose flour – 2 tbsp

Orange Marmalade – 1/2 tbsp

Nutella -1/2 tbsp

Sugar -1/2 tbsp

Cooking oil – 1 tbsp

Milk – 2.5 tbsp

Cocoa powder (unsweetened)- 2tbsp

Baking powder – 1/4 tsp

Salt – a pinch

Vanilla essence- few drops

Method

Take a large microwave safe bowl & add all dry ingredients (flour, sugar, chocolate, salt, baking powder) into it, mix well.

Add oil, milk, marmalade, Nutella & vanilla essence, mix well & remove all lumps.

Place in microwave and heat on high for 90 seconds, test with tooth prick.

You cake is ready to eat

PS: watch the cake continuously (burnt cake doesn’t taste good, and microwave power differs)

Singles Girls FAQ Series (Q1)- When will I get married ?

Well the answer is you will get married when you are mentally and emotionally prepared for it. Arrange marriage might make it seem that marriages are practical arrangements involving age, background, financial & educational status and you can marry anyone as long as those parameters match but in actual any marriage is more than that. Unless you understand why you actually want to get married and are open to make that kind of commitment, you will not be married.

Try to understand your own needs from a partners , your reasons for wanting to get married , your fears in regards with relationships. Understand the past patterns of breakup of your relations and be realistic. These will help you to set your direction.

Meanwhile instead of just blaming your luck and moping around develop your skills & your personality. Be in love with yourself . Forgive yourself and those who have hurt you. Laugh & enjoy and live this MOMENT

Life Coaching for Singles – Yes it works

As singles we face frustration and extreme pressure from society and people closest to us . Sometimes an unbearable loneliness fills our heart and makes us feel depressed. I too have been through such a phase and a recent comment from a reader made me realise that its time for me to post about coaching. I myself attended relationship coaching sessions to help me overcome my fears and to deal with this pressure ( Guys coaching is not counselling so if you have psychological issues – I suggest you go to a trained psychologist )

Coaching is for people who :

  • keep picking the wrong person/type ( and there’s a pattern there which you will recognize like I did , and how to break it
  •  feel lonely and don’t know how to deal with it , because they just don’t find the right person
  • are tired of searching for the right person and just want to compromise and get into a relationship for the sake of it
  • have commitment / trust issues
  • don’t know what they want from relationship
  • are not able to experience an equal relationship ( givers / takers )
  • who keep wanting more
  • NEED SOMEONE TO OPENLY TALK WITH ABOUT THEIR FEARS AND HOPES FOR A RELATION WITHOUT BEING JUDGED.

It helped me see myself in a different light and work on my self – image , how do I present myself to people and to know what I really want from a relationship. Try it out.

My Vision Board

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What it says

I am at peace with myself and the world. My relation with god is strong and my chakras are in balance. I take regular vacations , visit the spas and meditate regularly.

I have started my own group of companies and am independently wealthy and powerful. I am mentoring future leaders and being constantly interviewed by various magazines. My business is flourishing.

I am living in a huge 5 bedroom , fully landscaped house with my loving husband. Our dog is relaxing by the fireplace in our library while we are lazing in the huge pool ( and talking about our next luxury vacation ) outside and can view the sea from our pool. We have a sports car , a SUV and a luxury sedan parked in the garage. The birds are chirping in our huge garden.

I have met my dream guy who’s rich , good looking ,intelligent ,funny and loyal. He loves me totally. We are getting married and our families are totally happy that we have found each other.

 

Today is my wedding with my soulmate – the guy who understands me , loves me unconditionally , gives me the strength to conquer the world. Is rich , good looking , intelligent and funny. We are having a small hindu wedding by the beach where my nana – nani are blessing me. His family adores me.
I am healthy and fit. My skin glows and I have a sexy toned figure. I love to eat healthy , exercise and meditate daily.