Easy Microwave Roasted Makhanas (Foxnuts)- yummy

  • 3 cups Makhanas (foxnuts)
  • ¼ tsp. turmeric powder
  • ½ tsp. red chilli powder
  • 1 tsp. chat masala
  • Salt to taste
  • 1 tbsp. oil

 

Mix the Makhanas, oil and spices together , so that all Makhanas are lightly coated.
Place them in a single layer on glass baking dish.
Microwave on high for 1 minute
Microwave on high another 1 minute
You will hear popping sound at this stage, if not stir again and microwave for another 30 seconds.
Remove the tray from microwave.
Let it cool for 10 minutes before eating. Your crispy roasted Makhanas are ready to eat.

 

(PS: You can experiment with various masalas, I personally love using butter and red chilly for flavouring)

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Single Girls Guide to First Date – Scenario 2 ( Indian Arranged Marriage Setup , Meeting the Guy & his parents)

Although most parents will allow the prospective bride and groom to meet alone, you may end up with a first meeting with the guy and his entire clan.

What to wear?

Dress

A pretty kurta in a complexion enhancing colour teamed with tights or an elegant sari (check with your parents) are good options.

Jewellery

A simple pendant and earring will make you look elegant and pretty.

Makeup

Fresh natural makeup / nude look will give you confidence, while making sure that prospective in-laws do not feel you are trying to hide behind paint. You can opt for light pink or French manicure.

How to greet?

Generically a standard Namaste with folded hands and a smile will save you from the questioning looks from elders that may come with a “Hi” or getting labelled as “too traditional” if you opt for touching the feet.

Things to do / not to do

Sitting: Your parents / prospective in-laws may ask you to sit near them / their son. Do so gracefully. No rolling the eyes, looking shocked or uncomfortable.

Talking: Once you’ve exchanged the pleasantries, follow their cues and let them start the talking. Avoid being overfriendly or too restrained. Tone yourself down. Be polite. Skip embarrassing incidents and sticky subjects. If you think you are not comfortable with the line of questions being asked, change the track of the conversation.

With the guy: Don’t try to interview the guy in front of his parents. They may think that you will intimidate him.

Don’t be a fake: Be your own self. Don’t portray a wrong image; this can lead to a future disaster.  If you don’t know how to cook, say you’ve never had a chance or need to cook till now and who can predict what the future may bring.

 

Think of this whole situation as an interview with a prospective employer. You need to be the best version of yourself and make the interviewer want to hire you.

 

Single Girls Guide to Handling Rejection in Arranged Marriage

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By Michal Marcol on Digitalphotos.net

When you are considering arranged marriage, you are bound to face rejection for some of the proposals you send out (revert to newspaper ad or through on-line matrimonial sites) or from the guys / his parents you meet. Here are some tips on how to manage that rejection and move on.

TIME FRAME: IMMEDIATE (up to 1 Week)

  1. BE GRACEFUL: If you have been interacting with guy and he has rejected you, tell him that it was pleasure knowing him and you wish him well in his soul mate search. Ask him if he would like to give you a reason for rejection.  Do not try to justify or give explanation to him. I repeat do not explain or justify and ask for another chance unless there was some major misunderstanding. NO BEGGING FOR ANOTHER CHANCE. MAINTAIN YOUR DIGNITY.
  2. GRIEVE: Give yourself time to process the rejection. Eat that pizza and ice-cream. Cry.  Do not become despondent.
  3. TALK TO A TRUSTED FRIEND / FAMILY MEMBER: Use your best friends shoulder to lean on, tell them how you are feeling. They can help to bring you out of your grief and sort out what went wrong.

TIME FRAME: SHORT TERM (week to a Month)

  1. REVIEW YOUR PROFILE: Be realistic about the image you are projecting in terms of words, hobbies, and photographs. Any mismatch in the profile and real you will lead to rejection at later stage.  Leading to heart break.
  2. PHOTOGRAPHS: Do not Photoshop your photos to look slimmer, fairer. Remember you need to actually meet this guy before marriage. Get some good photographs clicked , should include some casual non studio pictures.

TIME FRAME: LONG TERM (1 MONTH to a YEAR)

  1. DEVELOP HOBBIES: Having a successful hobby will give you the confidence. Confidence is attractive.
  2. WORK ON YOURSELF: Join a gym to lose weight, learn the art of make-up, and invest in clothes that make you look good, go for regular facials, manicures and pedicures. Read.
  3. TALK WITH PARENTS: If your parents are managing your partner search, talks to them on what you want, don’t want. This is about you and your life. It’s better to marry late, than to marry just anyone and getting DIVORCED or having an UNHAPPY MARRIAGE.

 

IF YOU ARE UNDER TREMENDOUS PRESSURE TO GET MARRIED AND ARE FACING CONTINUOUS REJECTION , TALK TO A COUNSELLOR.