Single Girl’s Guide to Living Alone

Choosing an Apartment
1> Security: Make sure that the area is safe (check with your new colleagues), apartment block is secure, has guards on duty (who actually o the job), check with current residents if they feel safe (in general you will too), check if approach road is well lit and has people moving around at the time you will be going out and coming back from office. A safe apartment may cost more, but is an essential not to be compromised on.

2> Budget : Decide on a budget and be clear about money you can afford to and want to spend on rent, based on these you’ll need to find out what types of apartments are available in your price range. You may even want to share your place, so you can afford a bigger / safer apartment, or one that is in a more desirable neighborhood.

 ( check out my single girl’s guide to aprtment hunting for more information )

Household Chores

1> Food : Living alone, food is going to be a major problem even if you know cooking – simple reason you won’t feel like cooking for yourself, after a long tiring day in office. If possible invest in a basic microwave & freezer (you can cook your meals on weekends & freeze the stuff), you can also get dabbas or join a mess. If no such option exists ask your neighbor (aunty) if she can give you dinner on payment basis.

2> Maid : Hire a maid , your house will be clean & clutter free -believe me despite your best promises , you won’t be cleaning your house  as often as you would like & washing dishes & clothes will make you feel burdened and lonely.

3> Shopping: Find the nearest discount shopping store (a D-Mart may come out to be cheaper than Big Bazaar for you) do all your shopping in bulk – this will get you better discounts. For small stuff your neighborhood kirana shop is a good bet.

Beating the Loneliness

 

Work hard at making new friends, with your new colleagues. Gym can be a great place to start new friendships & to keep you looking great. Join a hobby club or take up some extra classes (you will have fun doing something you wanted to learn & make friends).

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Easy Microwave Recipe for Boiling Milk , Making Tea ,Coffee & Paneer ( cottage cheese)

Make 1 cup Coffee in Microwave

• Heat ½ cup milk for 2 minutes in microwave

• Add ½ cup water, sugar & 1 tsp coffee to the milk & heat for 40 seconds

• Your coffee is ready

 Make 1 cup Tea in Microwave

• Heat ½ cup water with tea-bag & sugar and heat for 2 minute

• Add milk and heat for 1 minute

• Your tea is ready

• You can also heat the milk & water together but the tea may taste a bit different

Boil Milk in Microwave

• Take 1 packet milk (500ml) in microwave safe bowl

• Heat for 4 minutes

• If not boiled heat for 30 seconds more.

• Keep your eye open to avoid spillages

Make Paneer in the microwave

• Micro on  high 4 cups of milk in a doubly sized microwave safe bowl for 5 minutes.

• Stir every 2 minutes in between.

• Now add 2 tbsp of curd and micro on high for 1 more minute. Leave it to cool for five minutes and then drain out the water.

Easy Fruit Chaat – Healthy Summer Recipe

1 pear, peeled, cubed
1 apple, peeled, cubed
2 bananas, sliced
1/2 pineapple, cubed
1/2 tbsp chhat masala  (available in Indian Stores)
1 tbsp. lemon juice
Salt to taste

Mix all the ingredients in a bowl and serve. Its healthy & yummy.

Newly Single Girl’s guide to getting over heartbreak

As I mentioned in an earlier post, I was madly in love with a guy. A guy who was my knight and made me feel like a princess. He was my best friend, the one guy who could make me laugh at any time, the one who gifted balloons and chocolates to street kids.

Then, he broke up with me for a girl, a girl who was a common friend, a girl he had sex with one night because she was depressed.

The whole thing just blew in my face and I went into depression.

For a long while all I could do was replay the scenario in my mind asking “what if” questions and crying into the night. There were so many questions and no answers.

I wanted to get over the pain, but something or other made me think of him and set me crying. It was a difficult seemingly unending phase, and this is what it taught me on getting over heartbreak.

1>    Avoid him like plague: Sounds kiddish but seeing/talking with him will bring out emotions and you may end up saying/ doing things you will regret. I used to call him & then spend the night crying, it’s so not worth it.\

2>    Cry: A break-up is tough, and it’s OK to cry over a loss. Just a find a place where you can be alone, like crying into your pillow at night or in the shower when you’re getting ready for the day. Remember, the purpose here is not to make your lover come back, but to heal u.

3>    Talk & share your feelings: Talk it over with your close friends – just talking and having someone to listen to your pain, hugging you and just being there 24*7 is a huge help. Nights were the toughest time, as just before you sleep, all the memories will come crawling, call your friend and talk.

4>    Letting go ritual: Recognize that you have been hurt, you may be angry, feel cheated, totally sad. Accept those feelings – write them all down on a piece of paper. Collect all the mementos – those small cards/ love letters / dried flowers etc. Create a bonfire and burn all the above mementoes and the paper with your feelings. Visualize – your pain burning away with the stuff. Have a shower and visualize yourself being cleansed and healed. This ritual helped me feel whole again. Also donate all his gifts to charity, the goodwill will help you heal while looking at them will hurt you.

5>    Indulge yourself: Do things that you always loved, get yourself pampered in a spa, go shopping, join a gym, take a hobby class – do anything you enjoy, it will keep you busy and release hormones which will make you calmer & happier.

6>    If nothing helps change: I changed my city, got a great new job which I loved. The whole getting used to a new life, pretending to be happy in front of new colleagues helped me a lot. You may not want to be so drastic, you can go in for a new haircut/change your wardrobe, get yourself a complete makeover.

Hope, that the steps help you. Remember, being single is not a crime or punishment. True love, will come into your life soon but till then let’s have a blast.

Baking Soda

 TEETH

1> Tooth Paste: Mix 3 parts Baking Soda with 1 part salt. Add 3 teaspoons of glycerin to form paste. Just before using add little water & use like normal paste.

 2> Tooth Whitener: Once a week, mash a ripe strawberry and add a tsp of baking soda to it. Apply the paste on your teeth and brush after 15 minutes. This will keep your teeth naturally white. Baking soda will remove all stains from tea, coffee and tobacco.

3> Mouth Wash: Add 2 teaspoons Baking Soda to 250 ml of water. Gargle in mouth swirling through teeth. Spit don’t swallow.

4> Toothbrush: Soak tooth brush in a mixture of water and baking soda, overnight for a hygienic, teeth friendly toothbrush.

HAIR

1> Clarifying Shampoo: Add a teaspoon of baking soda to shampoo bottle to remove buildup and to improve manageability

2> Clean brushes and combs: To remove natural build up of oil and hair product residue, soak combs and brushes in a solution of 1 teaspoon of baking soda in a small tub or basin of warm water. Rinse thoroughly and allow them to dry before use

3> Dry shampoo: Mix 1 part baking soda, 1 part baby powder. Apply the mixture to the roots of your hair and comb through. This mixture will absorb excess oils and freshen up your hair. (For a fragrant touch add 3 drops of your favorite essential oil to the mix)

4> Chlorine-damage: Mix 1/2 teaspoon of baking soda with 50ml warm water. Apply to hair & rinse off.

FACE

1>Exfoliate1: Scrub your way to a brighter skin by scrubbing the face gently using a paste of 3 parts baking soda to 1 part water. Wash with cold water.

2> Exfoliate2: Mix baking soda with oatmeal in your blender, add water to make paste, scrub face gently & rinse with cold water.

3>Exfoliate3: Mix some baking soda with facial cleanser. Use circular motions to apply gently then rinse as usual for visibly soft skin.

4> Aftershave Rinse: Make a solution of 1 tablespoon baking soda in 1 cup water for a soothing aftershave rinse.

5> Acne Mask: Combine baking Soda with just enough purified water to form a thick paste. Apply the paste on acne prone areas for 10-15 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Moisturize with oil free moisturizer. Repeat daily for 1 week, then on every 3rd day.

OTHER USES

1> Soothing Bath: Add ½ cup of baking soda to your bath water for smooth, refreshed skin.

2> Smooth Feet: Mix 3 tablespoons of baking soda in a tub of warm water. Soak your feet for desired amount of time. Then, create a paste of baking soda and water and gently scrub your feet with it.

3> Bath Oil: To create bath oil, you will need 4 tablespoons of baking soda, ½ cup of honey, ½ cup milk, 16 tablespoons of sea or cooking salt, and ½ cup of baby oil. In a large bowl, mix the baking soda, honey, milk, and salt; stir well. Massage with mixture and bathe as usual.

4> Soft knees & elbows: To smooth rough skin elbows & knees make a paste of baking soda and water and rub on skin. Rinse away with warm water.

5> Soften cuticles: Apply a paste baking soda to your cuticles, leave for 5 minutes

6> Odor remover: Remove fish, onion, or garlic odor from hands with a solution of 3 parts baking soda to 1 part water or liquid soap. Rub mixture in your hands, and rinse off

7> Antacid: Take 1/2 teaspoon baking soda in 1/2 glass of water to relieve acid indigestion or heartburn.

8> Deodorant: Apply some baking soda like the talcum powder, after bath to avoid smelly armpits, without clogging the pores.

Hope this series has been of use , check again for summer skin care routine, tips, recipes and remedies.

Single Girl’s Guide to First Phone Call Date – Matrimonial Sites /Arrange Marriage/Internet Dating

 I have been talking with a couple of guys selected from Jeevansathi/Shaadi or selected by my parents. During my phone calls which usually happen, before I have met the guy I realized that the first phone call can be tough. Its awkward speaking to someone whose biodata is the only thing you have seen. So, here is my list of tips for that first call to know the person & retain the interest (try it if you want but remember I’m still single)

1>    Ask open ended questions – guys love to feel important, by questioning him & listening to what’s important to him you are engaging him.

2>    Normally any guy who is calling you will want to make a good impression. He will try hard to carry on witty, fun, and pleasant conversations and use it to discover your interests and feelings –laugh at his jokes, have some of your own to share.

3>    Don’t talk about breakups/past relations etc in the first phone call. Any unpleasant stuff you may be asked, should be answered wrapped in layers of humour

4>    When you speak with energy, and enthusiasm (don’t explode with enthusiasm or giggle like a crazy)

5>     Don’t go on and on about a subject. If asked a question, give some information, and then smoothly point the conversation back to him

6>    Disconnect the call on a high to make it memorable for him

Things you can talk about

1>    Hobbies – Any shared interests will give you ideas for your actual date and an insight of the person he is

2>    Growing-up years including education

3>    General items in news that you can talk about

4>    Likes & dislikes / habits – how do you match up, you may discover things that are a strict no to you ( chain smoking, eating habits etc)

5>    Family – If you people end up getting married, they will play a huge role. His relations with his family will tell you what you may be getting into

6>    Career plan – To give you an idea of his ambitions and all

Wish you all the best for your first phone call.

 

Easy Basics using Microwave

  • Get more juice from citrus fruit
    Gently warm a lemon, lime, or orange before squeezing by hand or using a juicer – Heat on full power for about 10 seconds.
  • Peel peaches or tomatoes
    Pour water into a deep microwavable bowl or a glass measuring cup. Bring to a boil. Drop tomatoes or peaches in the water for only a few seconds each. The skin will loosen and peel off easily.
  • Dry fresh herbs
    Lay a small bunch of fresh herbs between paper towels . Microwave on full power for 1 to 2 minutes. Let cool, then check to see if they are dry enough to crumble. If not, continue to microwave, 30 seconds at a time, until the herbs are completely dried. Store in an airtight container.
  • Peel onions
    Place onions on a covered microwave-safe plate and cook for 1 to 2 minutes at full power.
  • Remove outer skin from garlic cloves
    Put the cloves in a custard cup and microwave at 80% power for 30 seconds. Allow the cloves to cool enough so you can handle them, then lift away the skin.
  • Blanch fresh vegetables
    Prepare the vegetables as desired – wash, chop, peel, slice, etc. – then place in a microwave-safe bowl. Add a small amount of water, cover, and microwave on full power for 3 to 4 minutes per pound, stopping to stir and re-arrange halfway through. Drain, then immediately plunge the hot vegetables into ice cold water to quickly cool.
  • Melt butter, margarine or solid Ghee…
    Microwave 1 stick / spoon of butter or margarine or 1/2 cup of ghee on full power for 45 seconds to 1 minute .
  • Freshen chips, biscuits and snack crackers…
    Microwave, uncovered, for about one minute on full power.
  • Add Moisture
  •      Fruits – Sprinkle a little fruit juice or water over dried fruits, cover with plastic wrap and microwave 1/2 to 1 minute at High to moisten and plump them.
  •      Tortillas/Crepes/Cakes/Rotis – Wrap tortillas or crepes in damp towel and microwave at High 1/2 minute or more to soften them.
  •      Reheating dried leftovers – Add Water or sauce when reheating dry leftovers. A tablespoon of water or sauce is sufficient, and will not change the flavor of food or cause overcooking. Moisture creates steam for even reheating.